Boss’s Day — Thank you Boss
Monday October 16 is Boss’s Day. I got curious about when did Boss’s Day get started? Wikipedia states “Patricia Bays Haroski registered “National Boss’ Day” with the U.S. Chamber of Commerce in 1958. She was working as a secretary for State Farm Insurance Company in Deerfield, Illinois, at the time and chose October 16, which was her father’s birthday. She was working for her father at the time.”
And this connection in relationship got me thinking. There are some relationships we are born into, while others are what we choose. But the relationship with a boss , is not just a choice but more so a privilege. At least in my opinion.
Most of us come to talk or think about bosses starting with some form of adjective , “good boss”, bad boss” , “mean boss” and so on. And of course there are many good books like “Good Boss, Bad Boss…” written by well known authors like Stanford Professor Robert Sutton on being an ideal boss. But I’d like to think of a “boss” as simply one who I work for and accountable to. Someone who has a broader range of responsibilities and greater accountability than I do and ultimately a person with career aspirations as I do as well. And above all, has also given me the privilege to work with her/him. Hence, the relationship is more so a privilege as well.
Sometimes, there is a tendency to think that we are smarter than our boss. Perhaps so. But more so because we fail to understand the rationale behind their decisions under conditions not visible to us. Ultimately the boss is accountable for many parts of the equation. Perhaps, I can be the “boss”. But I am boss to someone already. And everyone has a boss. Even the CEO has a boss. The Board members. As such, I would like to use only one simple definition of the noun “boss”. And that is someone I work for and accountable to. By that definition, the Customer is the ultimate boss. It all comes full circle.
I have my share of experiences with many types of bosses. But I have learned from everyone of them. Some of my relationships took a pause despite my best efforts to nourish them, while others bloomed with the same degree of respect and admiration I had for them. Regardless, while I wish I had the benefit of openness, I realized, I failed to align myself with them and continue to learn.
What’s the point ? Through this piece of writing, I would like to Thank All My Bosses. No adjectives here. A simple “Thank you” That’s all.
A colleague of mine has this quote in his IM — “Think of a Happy Thought & Smile” . And for all my friends, colleagues, network, readers, to paraphrase that quote,
Think of a Happy Moment (you had with your boss) and say “Thank you” / Send a note to your Boss.
Here’s 3 ways I recommend to say “Thank you” depending on your personality.
- If you are someone with very few words and reticent — Just Forward this Writing.
- If you just don’t have words, then a simple “Thank you for being my boss” would do.
- If you are the expressive type, then let your boss know what difference she/he made for you. Everyone deserves to know the difference they make,
Keep in mind, ignore adjectives and does not matter what role you have. And do it the first thing in the morning. Let the first smile on their face be because of your note/text msg in their inbox / phone. And I request all bosses to accept it graciously and assume no frills attached.
Finally, I hope all bosses get to read this article. And maybe, just maybe, one of you reading this article is connected to one of my bosses that I have long since lost touch. So would you be able to share it? My hope is that this “Thank you” reaches all my bosses through your Shares.