Oh, cuffing season, the time of year where we lower our expectations or standards a bit so that we are not left cold during late autumn and early winter. The time of year where we just need someone to be physically close to, and feel comfort with through the weather and holidays. And that time of year has come again.
It makes sense that people would want to be with someone during the coldest months of the year. Suicide rates are usually the highest during this period, and seasonal depression is often reflective during this time. People may need someone just to help with their personal health and self-care as they endure a few months where they are susceptible to the darker parts of themselves.
Maslow’s Monkeys tells us how much we desire and prefer comfort, especially from something or someone we deem safe. And as humans, we are social beings. We need to be around people a lot more than we think. So, leaning on someone in an atypical way is actually typical.
And sometimes, we offer time and energy up more to people we do not mind being around more. Cuffing does not mean you are just hanging out and finding comfort with a random person, it could happen between you and a friend too. With a friend, your relationship can deepen, because this can be a vulnerable time of year for the both of you. And there is nothing wrong with that.
There is nothing wrong with leaning more on someone you already trust and already know. If you both are adults, you both can decide what is best for the two of you. And they are usually the best ones to be around besides your family during the holidays.
Some people cuff for the holidays. Family can occasionally pressure you to bring someone or talk about someone you are seeing, and the person you are cuffing with can fulfill that role if both of you are okay with that. It eases the burden a bit, and allows your family to be less worried about your relationship future.
On the other hand, family can be so overwhelming that you turn to your cuffer as an outlet. That person can be your safe haven or happy place. If touchy subjects come up during Thanksgiving, then maybe after everyone leaves, you can spend time with your cuffer. If there is a mistletoe afoot (pun intended), then your cuffer can be your partner in the superstitious tradition. In other words, your cuffer can save you from any downside to the holidays.
But as cuffing season comes to an end, when the weather warms up and the holiday decorations come down, you may be wandering where do you go from here. And the implication of cuffing season, suggest that it is temporary, which for the most part it is. You and your cuffer can go your separate ways cherishing the time you had together without the complication of something more.
However, if you both find that you do not want the time you shared to end, and you want it to continue through the warm months too, then maybe this relationship is not temporary at all. Maybe this is the start of something great.