Dear Old Work Life… (an ode to inflexible working)

I’m sorry but we’ve come to the end of the line. It’s not you, it’s me. I can’t go on feeling like this. This relationship has become too one sided. You are selfish and you don’t think about what I need. It’s like my happiness is not important to you, as long as you get what you want from me you carry on-take, take, taking.

I’m tired, so tired. I don’t see my friends anymore, my family say I’m really grouchy and distant. I never have the energy to go to the gym, I can’t remember the last time I didn’t cancel a night out at the last minute, its like I’m losing me.

And there’s something else I need to tell you, it’s important we are honest. I’ve met someone else. They appreciate me for who I am, they understand that in order to be the best version of me I need to balance my time and priorities. They like my family, they even invited them along to fireworks and the cinema. They encourage me to make friends and to live a healthy life, we go running, to exercise classes and even sneak in the odd cupcake.

They never forget my birthday, in fact they tell me to take the day off-no questions asked. They support me to develop the kind of life I want, helping me to learn new skills, explore different paths and work out a challenging and interesting future. They aren’t clingy-if I want to be on my own or get my head down on something complicated then they back off, as long as I’m contactable they trust me to do a great job.

When I need a little help they are there for me, I know I can talk to them and if anything in life really gets tricky I’m sure they will have my back. This is how a working relationship should be. It may not be my forever love, I think we need to be realistic in these changing times, but its good for me, for where I’m at right now.

Trust, purpose, support, challenge. I think we are a perfect match.

So goodbye my inflexible friend, I hope you can change your ways.

(I found my match at, maybe you could find yours?)