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Emotions are a natural and healthy part of being human. Emotions are far-ranging and diversely expressed and include things like sadness, contentment, joy, happiness, embarrassment, overwhelm, confusion, playfulness, anxiousness, mischievousness, anger, grief, and sometimes, downright terror.

Many mental health experts use ‘feelings charts’ to help kids identify feelings, and I believe such charts are useful across the ages (as well for more accurately rating physical pain, also across the ages):

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Image source.

A more expanded range of feelings and emotions:

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“Emotion Wheel” via The Juno Institute via @DanaSuchow on Instagram.

Emotions are normal, natural, healthy responses to our environment and whatever stimuli we are experiencing, or not experiencing.

For example, if someone assaults us, we will not like it. We will feel hurt, confused, angry, or scared. Some of us would reflexively self-defend and fight back, while others would freeze or run.

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We hear much about, and we are ALL directly impacted by the (unearned) privileges of whiteness, maleness, heterosexuality, able-bodiedness and youth, to name a few. But we don’t hear much about thin privilege.

In cultures that create and uphold the idea and practice of privilege, people end up on the included or excluded list.

Privilege is various forms of safety, upward social mobility and having “doors open” to you that the non-privileged and oppressed do not have.*

When it comes to thin privilege and the rigid, narrow, unrealistic beauty standards that the (euro)western culture deems superior and holds up as desirable, Elizabeth Yuko of SheKnows explains:

This goes beyond beauty to actively stigmatizing people who don’t look a certain way, especially when it comes to those of us with larger bodies. …

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Not every therapist is going to be a good fit for you. This is normal, natural and okay.

Effective therapy has little to do with what kind of therapy is used and much more to do with the relationship between client and therapist — also known as the therapeutic alliance. This takes time to build — as does any relationship — and the client-therapist relationship is a very intimate one.

You know your therapist is a good fit when you feel respected and safe to express your thoughts and feelings, and that you are contained i.e. …


Natasha Sandy

Psychotherapist & Female Empowerment Igniter | Own Your Value, Step Into Your Power & Join the Revolution! | @WeMightyWomen |

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