The “Dream Job”
Why it is at worst a hoax, and at best an overrated idea.
For the last few years, really ever since we got married, my wife and I have either been in school working torwards our “dream job” or working jobs that we didn’t love as we worked torwards our dream. We had these goals in our head that we belived if we could just get there than we could be happy, we would be doing what we love and life would be good. However, the more people I meet and the longer I live, the more I am finding that this isn’t really true…at all.
My wife is a really great example of this. She has known ever since highschool that she wanted to be a chiropractor. She studied pre-med in undergrad and spent three years in Chiropractic college in pursuit of this goal. After college she got a great job at a local chirpractor. She did it. She made it to her “dream job”…and it was kinda dissapointing. She loves her work, and it is what she was made to do, but it didn’t bring the happiness that she thought it would. Even though it is her “dream job”, it is still a job.
I think many people, especially of my generation, have experienced something similar. There is normally a couple of senarios.
- Somebody works extrememly hard to get their “dream job” only to be dissappointed that it didn’t bring the happiness they expected.
- Some people never get their “dream job” and spend their entire life feeling like they aren’t as happy or fullfilled as they could have been.
Both of these senarios are incredibly sad to me and I think stem from looking at work itself in the wrong way.
Somewhere along the line, our generation came to look at work as if it is a bad thing. We are told by our parents and teachers that we can “do or be anything we want” and while I don’t think encouragement like this is bad, I think there is a side of the coin we are forgetting.
I think we need to start teaching our kids that they can be happy doing anything if they view it the right way. We need to teach them that work is a part of the rythm of life and should be viewed as an opportunity to do good. We should teach them that happiness comes through people and family and love, not through our job or our status.
All this being said, I firmly believe that we should pursue our dreams. I think we are given gifts and aspirations for a reason and it would be a disservice to our world not to chase them, but we musn’t find our happiness here. Work will always be a part of life and the sooner we accept that the sooner we can truly find happiness in what we do, whatever that is.