Okay, I get that. The full truth is, in fact, that white people are varied and complex, and there are many that have done a lot of good for black people and the world. That is true and without question.
However, while you are trying to get black people not to blame others for their problems, what winds up happening is that you’re also deflecting appropriate responsibility from white power structures, which are run by white people for the benefit of white people. You are essentially blaming the victims for the consequences of the actions of their abusers.
As just one example among countless many, during the housing bubble, Wells Fargo and other banks *deliberately* funneled many black families (not white families) into subprime loans even though they qualified for better, less expensive loans. This not only drained these families of a portion of their income while the economy was doing okay, but it eventually caused a lot of black families to lose their homes when they wouldn’t have under a better loan that they qualified for, and that they would have gotten if they were white. That means that the mostly white-owned and -run banks essentially swindled black families out of their largest asset and best vehicle for upward economic mobility. And this isn’t an isolated incident. This and worse were common practices in places like Chicago for most of the 20th century.
So while you’re focusing on slavery as a phenomenon of the distant past, black people are experiencing economically devastating exploitation to this very day. And when you deflect rightful responsibility from white power structures onto the victims of those power structures, you are making yourself *complicit* in the injustices they perpetrate. That’s why you are getting yourself lumped in with racists and apologists for racism. I suspect that that isn’t your intent, but that is the reality, and no one can change your choices and perspective but you, so that makes it your responsibility. Does that make sense?