Sex on the first date

So i went out with this guy i just met.

I’ve never had sex on the first date, so the story starts like this.

I was at home, bored, it was friday night and this guy i met at Tinder asked me out, we had two friends in common so i tought it was cool, i wasn’t doing much, so i said yes.

He picked me up at home, so i tought wow this guy is a gentleman, and according to that i acted like a lady, i chose the place to eat, a really nice restaurant that serves gourmet burguers, and so the night went on. He had family in my hometown so he wasn’t a totally random and creepy guy at least i knew some of his family, he told me about his life and i told him about mine.

The night went on and we decided to get some drinks so we arrived at this cool bar with good music, i started drinking Mojitos and he drank Grey Goose, we started getting closer, and everything was going so good we kissed, he asked me if wanted to go back to his place, at this point i had a few drinks on me and i said yes.

We got to his apartment and well basically we started kissing, one thing led to another and we ended up having GREAT sex.

But after that everything went from heaven to hell, as soon as i got dressed he told me “…So, are you taking a taxi or what?”, i felt really ashamed so i texted my best friend to come and pick me up, i rushed out of the house and came home. He was such a gentleman the whole night, what went wrong?, i started blaming myself for not having enough restrain or self-control.

The next day i was browsing trough the internet and i found this phrase from a guy saying, “I lose all respect for a girl if she gives it to me the first date”; i started bursting from rage, but then i think about what had happened the night before and i concluded: first of all i didn’t give IT to you, WE decided together we were gonna have sex, and it’s ok; second, i’m not less of a respectable woman if i decide i want to sleep with you on the first night; and third and last, i can also think you have no self-respect if you want to sleep with me on the first date, but i chose not to.

I guess what i’m trying to say is that it’s ok if you want to sleep with someone on the first date, and is also ok if you decide to do it on the second, the tenth, wait until you’re married. As a woman and as an adult i think i have control over my body and my sexuality, and i don’t feel bad about using it, and i’m not gonna let anyone make me feel otherwise.

P.s: The guy didn’t call the next day, so i texted him and he was cold and distant, i blocked him from Facebook and ignore him until he decided to appear. He asked me out again, and i said no, i don’t want someone who can be a gentleman with me only if i ignore him.