Step 1: Self-reflect in your own/alone time, as opposed to doing it in a state of anxiety at social occasions. You’re the only one who cares about what people think of you. Nobody is sitting around waiting for an opportunity to make you feel like shit.
Step 2: Take an active and unapologetic interest in other people. Realise that every person is a walking storybook on legs.
Being charismatic isn’t about YOU. It’s about your interest in other people.
When I scan my memory banks for the most charismatic people I’ve encountered in my life’s journey, the first thoughts I get about each of them is “They noticed me, they cared about me, they wanted to hear what I had to say” followed by “I like that guy”.
A fondness. A warm feeling. A gratefulness.
The father of one of my school buddies was very charismatic. We all loved him. He always took the time to connect with you, and always remembered what we talked about last time.
But yeah… there’s another point… We always remember (and remember FONDLY) those who actually bothered to take a genuine interest, and were not doing it as a strategy to get anything from us in return for this investment.
Charisma is another word for generosity.
DT
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