Make sure your partner is too.

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It’s been more than two years since I got married. I was 25 years old, and there couldn’t have been a more perfect timing. Although it wasn’t always easy, I am thankful for all the lessons I have learned along the way.

A Bit of Back Story

Recently, I received a message from a close friend of mine in the middle of the night. Completely out of the blue, she asked me, “Did you ever feel like you needed alone time before getting married?”

Perhaps it was a question lingering in her mind since she planned on getting married to her long-term boyfriend after the…


The unusual advice to help alleviate conflict with your partner.

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Whenever I have some downtime, or in need of some good karma, I often catch myself giving relationship advice on Reddit.

I find it a fun way to spend my time, helping others.

Someone had posted a question on how to make a marriage last a lifetime. I have been with my husband for almost a decade, but married for two years so far— I decided to share my advice.

To my surprise, I received numerous upvotes for the advice, and lots of thank you comments. Apparently, what I shared was not as common as I thought.

Here’s my advice to couples during a conflicting situation:

“Imagine an important…


And I hope it makes him proud.

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Parents can be funny. I grew up being reminded that my actions are reflections of their upbringing. From a young age, whenever I did anything rebellious, they would repeatedly say, “stop being like this. What would people say about us?”.

I never understood it. I would argue back saying that I am an individual and whatever I say or do should not be rooted back to them.

Unfortunately, that’s just the way it works, especially in most Eastern cultures where collectivism is more prominent.

Due to certain restrictions in my upbringing, I always felt the need to rebel against cultural…


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Beyond the number of followers or likes you have

I started a lifestyle Instagram blog with my future sister-in-law a few months back. We created it to help empower other women.

There was a time in our lives where we felt young, wild, and free. Our late teens to early twenties. We were more confident, loved being silly, and most of all loved capturing significant moments in our lives.

As years went by, for some odd reason — we lost that connection. Perhaps the older we got; we became more aware of other people’s judgments.

We aspire to bring back that spark. The spark that enlightens our spirits. We…


4 signs to watch out for.

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I was once in a long-term toxic relationship filled with double standards. For many Middle Eastern women, sadly, double-standard relationships are almost the norm. However, this can happen to anyone— not exclusively to Middle Easterns.

Some women accept it, and love the society-driven role that’s made for women. These include the stereotypes that women belong in the kitchen and should make sandwiches all day.

Before getting married, one of my closest friends wanted to sit me down for some life advice. She told me, when my husband walks home from work, I am supposed to take off his shoes, and…


Timing isn’t everything

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When I was 16, I met a guy who I thought I was going to marry. I thought I met my potential lifelong companion, a kindred spirit.

We shared a similar name and background. That’s all we had in common.

I was head over heels. I thought he was my first love. It was superficial — more of an infatuation. I thought I was going to marry him just because we were together for 3 years. That was my only reason.

Looking back at it now, I can see how naive I was. There was nothing good about the relationship…


3 ways to combat racism amongst friends and family members

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In this day and age, it’s disappointing to still witness racism amongst us. Most especially in privileged developed countries such as the United States — where people have chosen to immigrate to for greater stability and safety — essentially to have a better life.

We don’t often have to look far to search for racism, and we don’t have to be White to be racist either. Unfortunately, racism occurs even in Asian or Middle Eastern households.

I am ashamed and disgusted to say that more than half of my family are probably racist. For some reason, it’s weirdly normalized by…


A stoic approach to envy

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Envy is inevitable. We are surrounded by people’s successes. Sometimes it gets to us, and that’s ok.

I used to have an unhealthy morning habit. I used to grab my phone by my bedside as soon as I woke up and stayed in bed for an extra hour or two just scrolling through my social media feed.

This was my morning routine for a couple of years.

It’s not like there’s anything so wrong about it — until I started noticing my mood shift. I would spend hours comparing the size of my waist to Instagram models, compare my weekends…


It doesn’t make us happier.

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Money does not buy happiness. We have heard this being said over and over again. Yet, we still spend a lot of our time fixated on how to earn more money.

A survey conducted on LinkedIn shows that recent graduates care most about money when job hunting. Shouldn’t work-life balance or personal growth be as important?

Personally, there were days when I used to get so stressed out worrying about the amount in my bank and the utility bills in the coming months. I was spending my life worrying about the future. My mood would be absolutely sh*t, and I…


#3. They are comfortable… but not too comfortable.

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I came across this Tik Tok video and couldn’t help but smile. The video is literally my definition of #couplegoals. I felt my heart flutter.

People look for different things in a relationship. Some are in it for love, others for security. Personally, I love the friendship that you build with your partner.

What makes a couple look like they enjoy a healthy relationship?

My expertise is derived from being a Psychology nerd, past toxic relationships that I learned from, and a decade of a loving relationship with my spouse.

Here are six signs of what a healthy relationship looks like:

#1. They are two individuals in a relationship.

In order to be able to love and receive love…

Nawal Alansaari

MBA, BA Economics, & minor in Psychology. Lover of life & learning. Sharing my words to make your day a little bit brighter. nawal.aa92@gmail.com IG: nawal.la

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