Tram is an 8ish-year-old terrier mix. I adopted him from a nonprofit shelter in Queens going on 7 years ago January 2019 with my ex. When we broke up, I kept him.

This is Tram (photo is mine)

Tram accompanied me through moving into my own NYC apartment post-breakup, dating and ultimately meeting my now spouse, moving to San Francisco for work, getting married, and moving back to NYC last year. All the while I struggled with depression and anxiety, navigated some major family conflicts, and grew into my own identity. …


I have never in my life followed professional sports. If you’re like me you may or may not be aware that (American) football season is now upon us. Grocers and big box stores hawk jumbo bags of chips, sodas, and other snacks to celebrate the season. Even the most casual fans don’t hesitate to get fired up during football season. Deck out your car, yourself, even your entire basement in your favorite team’s logo and colors. Rivalries heat up and excitement surrounds new players and seasoned favorites. Football ranks with the weather for top small talk topic in American offices.


My partner tells me that because he’s a native New Yorker and we’re married, I can now call myself one. Apparently you are either born a New Yorker, you can marry into it, or you’re not one, no matter how long you live here.

I just moved back to New York (Brooklyn specifically) from San Francisco in February 2018. A temporary work assignment brought me to SF for two years and the same job brought me back to the Big Apple. New Yorkers hate when people call The City the Big Apple.

Am I a New Yorker? I wasn’t born…


I live in a very family and pet-friendly neighborhood of Brooklyn, NYC. This is aneighborhood where people leave their strollers outside overnight and allow their dogs off leash in the small parks that dot the avenues without much care. It’s well-documented that indoor/outdoor and bodega cats are a fixture in Brooklyn. Some of the cats in our neighborhood are more or less friendly. I’m admittedly very much a dog person, but even I have made friends with some of these free-range cats.

This weekend my partner and I noticed a black and white poster hastily taped on the corner for…


I grew up watching makeover shows with my mother. Among TLC, Oprah’s makeover episodes, and the network versions, our favorites were What Not to Wear (TLC) and Queer Eye for The Straight Guy (Bravo).

These shows all have a formula. A talented and/or well-loved contestant is introduced. Their bad outfits and decor missteps are made glaringly obvious with voiceovers from the experts. Participants have all the potential for success in love, career and life, if only their appearances weren’t holding them back.

The experts zoom in, and after a very brief introduction, launch into physical comedy to dig into the…


Like most type-A women I know, I want to know how to be my best self, eat healthier, perform better at work, kick ass at being married, and be an overall boss lady. I listen to podcasts, read books and blog posts and spend a lot of my time thinking about how I can be smarter, happier, healthier, and more creative.

When I volunteered as a mentor to a high-school student, we worked with our mentees on the idea of having a growth (versus fixed) mindset. HBR explains that this idea suggests we all have talents that can be developed…


I’m afraid of being haunted by everyone I’ve ever known. I live in Brooklyn, New York and I see hundreds of faces every day that I may never see again. I see some more than once: folks who share my commute timing and route. But often, in these one-off faces, I’m spooked by how much they resemble fleeting faces from earlier in my life.

A young woman sipping an iced coffee looks like a former coworker who I blew off for drinks years ago and haven’t spoken to since. I swear that a man in a suit is my former…


Don’t get me wrong. I’m excited at the idea of becoming a parent. My partner and I have been married for nearly a year, and when we got together the key things we agreed on were: 1. we wanted to get married 2. we wanted to have a home we love where we can host friends and family and 3. that we wanted to raise smart and kind children together.

That said, I know myself well and there are a few things that I can’t stop thinking about when I try to imagine how much my day-to-day life will change…


I’m really frustrated with the phrase “managing depression,” and I’m really exhausted from simply managing my life.

A bit about me: I’ve had the diagnosis of Panic Disorder and Major Depression for over four years. Looking back, I should have been diagnosed with Panic Disorder as a child. I’ve had life-interrupting panic attacks as long as I can remember.

Present: I’m 28, married, a top performer in my corporate job, who has all the trappings of success. I think most people would agree I have made a great life for myself so far. …

NC Eakin

dog parent, feminist

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