Thank you for the wonderful essay, Emma. Your writing is elegant, clear and deeply thoughtful.
I also discovered Nancy Friday’s “My Secret Garden”. I found parts of the book deeply erotic. I also started to understand that there might be women whose desire was the mirror of mine.
Years later, I read the book “Different Loving”, in particular the interview with Eve Howard, which showed me that the mirror of my desire might someday be mine. Which is how it turned out, but the path was not easy.
I also read Nancy Friday’s book on men’s fantasies, but I didn’t find it as good.