Michon Neal
Dec 18, 2016 · 11 min read

1. Not Everyone Transitions into Non-Monogamy

I very strongly believe polyamory is inherent to my nature. And while nature versus nurture shouldn’t be an issue, my experience of non-monogamy is not the typical narrative.

2. Disastrous First Relationships Are Considered Normal, But Aren’t

Speaking of newbie mistakes, how about having terrible first relationships?

3. The Reality Behind the Statistic

Most people in the polyamorous community may only be familiar with other minorities via statistics rather than actually listening to us.

4. ‘Drama-Free’ Polyamory Excludes Me

And speaking of health and options: I’d be considered one of those “drama-filled” people polyamorous folks try to avoid, not because I cause drama, but because I encounter so much trouble by nature of my marginalized identities. Being with me requires one to deal with heavy issues every single day.

5. There’s Community Support Unless You’re Invisible

Those I’ve talked to who feel that they were born polyamorous or who are in minority categories often feel they have nowhere to turn to for advice or information on their experiences.

6. Abuse Isn’t a Personal Problem — It’s an Epidemic

The more I read, the more I saw that there wasn’t much advice on what to do when someone actually encounters abuse.

What Community Means

For decades, the thousands of voices in the cuilverse were the only ones to keep me company. For many, community is simply a place to relax and have fun.


Michon Neal

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Integrated Non-Monogamy, Metanoiac Alethiology, aro love terms, cuil fiction, & more; Speaker; Sensitivity Editor Cuil Press. https://the-metanoiac-portal.mn.co

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