Neha Malik
Jul 28, 2017 · 3 min read

Sex Has No Business With Your Mind.

What is sex really?

I mean we aren’t always doing it for procreation? We are doing it to fulfill something within us.

Sex is a natural thing, sex is needed yes. But why are we complicating the simple biological processes and exploiting each other?

90% of human energy today is either used pursuing sex or avoiding it.

If you think about it, sex is just nature’s trick to reproduce. But why is it on our minds all the time? Why do we exploit the other because of sex?

You don’t have to make biology sacred it’s. not filthy, it’s just part of life.

No need to over think it, it has a beauty of it’s own.

There is a deep need to find someone else so we can feel complete. We need to realise that each and every one of us is complete, we are already whole.

Sex is great as a survival process, but the minute we start seeking something more from sex and decorating it with chaotic emotions it is unnecessary.

We are so concerned and identified with ourselves, our bodies, that is why sex is a heavy. need.

A person who is stimulated within themselves, it will be unlikely that they will look at sex the same way as a person heavily identified with themselves/ with their bodies.

In sex based relationships what is passed of as ‘love’ is just. a mutual benefit scheme.

– ‘I will give you this, for you to give me that’.

When there is a relationship and it is not based on just sex as as the root pleasure than that relationship has a high potential to manifest love. Love without conditions or receiving and giving anything.

We often think the moment someone says ‘I love you’, it means you are mine and I am yours.

I love you is a Mantra. It means to give up a part of me to you, but stay contained as you and you as ‘the whole’, already complete, but willing to give without conditions.

There is no need to make a theory out of relationships – no right and no wrong, there is no such thing, it’s just created complications for dramatic effect.

Then someone may ask what is the point of loving? Why not just have detached sex?.

First of all we need to remove the idea that love and sex are related, they are not.

Sex is biology.

Love is what triggers the higher intelligence in you to be your best, beyond the physical and a catapult to your highest potential.

Love is within you, it is not something someones give you, you manifest love. Sure, sometimes the other person can allow us to open up to the love emotion, but how often does that other person allow you to stay in love before it becomes another emotion – anger, sadness, loneliness, anxiety?.

If you are seeking love from the other than that wont last long. If you are seeking to become whole through sex. then you need to understand that two physical bodies can never become one, at the most it can help form bonds.

A lot of sex is happening. today because of insecurities not love. People are lost by themselves and they don’t know how to be by themselves. There is some sense of security by being with another intimately. Then why do people who have partners, husbands, wives have so much insecurity on their faces?

The more one is identified with the physical body, the other, someone else to give you completeness than your insecurity will increase so much more.

Sex is just that, it is just sex. It has nothing to do with you, do not think too much about it, rather enjoy it, but through bonds with the other it is also important to experience more than just the physical.

Sex has no business with your mind, it’s just biology baby.

Neha Malik

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