Spawned from Adversity
Being true to yourself
Adversity in General
Without adversity, there would be no emotional pain.
Emotional pain is caused by things not being right. Without adversity, everything would always be right. But adversity is not an enemy.
Adversity can either propel you to excellence or drag you to misery.
In life, adversity is unavoidable. The best approach to adversity is not to avoid it, but to use it as a springboard. Those considered successful are not those who shied away from adversity, but who turned adversity into a catalyst for growth.
The Best Way Out is Always Through
Realize that your weaknesses are the pathway to your highest self.
Side-stepping your weaknesses will not serve you. The best way out is always through:
To achieve success, you must incorporate, utilize, and value every weakness that holds you back in the first place.
This is not to say that your weaknesses and adversities are something to ‘beat’ and then move away from. On the contrary. It is more akin to ‘breaking’ a wild horse. ‘Breaking’ a horse is not the end of the process. It’s the first step to harnessing the horse’s potential.
Furthering the ‘break the horse’ analogy, imagine your fenced in with a wild horse. The wild horse is all your weaknesses; everything that prevents you from being what you want to be. Beyond the fence is everything you can be. There is one, and only one way to get there: You must ‘break’ the horse, wield it to your advantage, then — on the ‘broken’ horse of your own weaknesses — jump the fence.
Hating, guilting and bashing are not the proper avenues for approaching your weaknesses. Love, compassion, and support are your best approaches.
Please Don’t Let Me Be Misunderstood
The misunderstanding we often operate under is that we should kill the horse.
We view the horse, or all our problems and weaknesses, as what is preventing us from being where we want to be. In reality, our problems and weaknesses are the tools we must use to get where we want to be.
The erroneous thinking is that if someone can simply rid themselves of everything they consider to be holding them back, then they’d be free to live how they want to live.
Ridding oneself of weaknesses, like throwing something away, would mean what’s being disposed of is worthless. It’s not. What we wish was different about ourselves is our most valuable possession. We should be grateful, in fact, that despite our best efforts to rid ourselves of what we consider negative, the negative stuff sticks around! If it left, we’d be in real trouble.
Still, many people are frustrated. They are frustrated with their weaknesses and adversities. What’s more, they are frustrated with their inability to rid themselves of said weaknesses and adversities.
Thinking it’s the problem, people abuse the wild horse. In reality, ‘breaking’ the horse is the key to liberation.
Self-Hurt or Self-Help?
The prescribed tool kit of self-help is, in large part, a facade.
‘For a better external, you must address the internal’ is the philosophy behind the self-help industry. What they leave out, however, is the most important part. They leave out the fact that the key to your success is already within you: It’s everything you wish wasn’t so.
To pinpoint the elements you possess that will help you succeed, make a list of everything you don’t like about yourself. Pretty easy to do, right? Write down all the things you wish you could change, get away from, or get rid of. When you’re done, you’ve created a list of what the keys to your success will be.
There is a lock and key on successful living. The lock is an ingenious one: It’s the requirement to incorporate, utilize and value everything you don’t like about yourself. To embrace the parts of yourself that cause you to recoil in disgust.
Everyone comes to the Earth with a phobia. The phobia of addressing themselves; of truly seeing themselves.
Your arsenal for liberation is everything wrong with you, not everything right with you. It’s not necessarily your talents that will bring you success. Talents exist, in large part, for the purpose of blessing others.
Your talents can be a partial key, especially if your weaknesses and adversities are a barrier to fully expressing your talents. Fully expressing your talents will only come once you have incorporated, utilized and valued your weaknesses and adversities.
The best way out is always through.
Don’t Take Anyone’s Word For It
Who should you ask, “What should I do?”
Desperate for fulfillment, yet unaware of how to find it, we often consult others. This isn’t inherently bad, but can quickly become so. It’s akin to asking other people if the person you’re courting is the right person to marry:
No one is going to know the answer to that but you.
The pivotal moments in your life, or the significant breakthroughs, are uniquely your own. They’re your experiences, complete with your perceptions and interpretations. Pivotal decisions are reserved for you to make; no one can make those decisions for you. You can still do what others suggest, but the fallout can be painful:
A deep sorrow results from doing what others say or think you should do, instead of following your heart.
What should I do?
“What should I do?” is one of the most poignant questions humans can ask.
People want to know what the right thing to do is. Or, they want to know what will bring them the most happiness. These are not bad questions. Asking others to answer them for you, on the other hand, is bad. The flame of your soul is extinguished when you relegate the pivotal decisions of your life to other people.
Regardless, happiness is not dependent on outcome:
Happiness is asking yourself the question, “What should I do?” then following your heart. No matter what happens after that, you are being true to yourself.
Be true to yourself! That is the principle at the heart of incorporating your weaknesses and adversities into springboards for liberation. And that means being true to every part of you. Not just the parts you like, but also the parts of yourself you don’t like.
The parts of yourself you don’t like, your weaknesses (aka the wild horse), are to be ‘broken,’ not gotten rid of.
‘Broken:’ incorporated, utilized, and valued.
You get to where you want to be only by riding on the back of your ‘broken’ weaknesses.
The ultimate question to ask yourself is “How can I be true to myself?” Your heart’s answer to this question will allow you to ‘break the horse.’ As you continue to ask yourself this, you will, on the back of your ‘broken’ weaknesses, jump the fence.