This is the only answer I found

If there are no answers to be found, is it still worth it to ask the questions?

Fabio Salvadori
Aug 9, 2017 · 3 min read
Photo by Evan Dennis on Unsplash

What do I want in life?
What is my purpose?
Which are my passions? And my values?
Who am I?
What is the meaning of my life?

These are some of the tough questions that I keep asking myself. I bet that they are similar to the ones that, at some point in your life, you asked yourself.
But is asking those questions useful or are we just wasting our precious time on a vain quest?
Because, honestly, I have spent a lot of time reading, talking, listening, watching, meditating, thinking, observing, asking, digging, inside and outside my mind, trying to find answers or at least some clarity.
As you probably already guessed, I still haven’t found what I am looking for. The answer that explains everything. [spoiler alert: I found no answers, but the journey so far has been marvellous].

I know there is something that resembles the answers I look for somewhere. I know it because I can feel it.
When I do or say something, I can feel if it is aligned with my values (or purpose, meaning, you name it) or not.
The problem is that I can’t find the words to describe it. I can feel it, but I cannot verbalise it. But if I cannot speak it out, is it real?

According to neuroscience, decision making and the ability to explain those decisions exist in different parts of the brain.
Decisions, like feelings and emotions, come from the limbic system; a small set of structures located in the innermost part of our brain. Language, instead, is managed in the outer part of the brain, the cortex. No wonder that it can be hard to verbalise our values. Even if I find those answers, I may not be able to express them.

To make things more complicated, I have realised that as long as I keep growing and changing — and life is a never ending changing process — those answers, whatever they are, change with me. So, the day I will find them they could be already old, and I wouldn’t be able to put them into words in any case.

So the doubts remain, why searching the answers at all? Why spending time in a never ending search? Wouldn’t it be easier to avoid all those questions at all? Is this quest useful at all?

If there are no answers to be found, is it still worth it to ask the questions?

This is the only one answer that I found.

Yes, it is unquestionably well worth it to dedicate energies questioning yourself about the meaning of your life.

It is worth it because this journey is not about finding the answers at all. It is about creating them.

You don’t find your purpose. You grow into it.

There isn’t a “true self” waiting to be found somewhere, within or without you. You create your true self, day by day, choice by choice, question after question.

“Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely.” — Karen Kaiser Clark

Tomorrow you will be different from Today, want it or not. But you can choose who you want to become.
Asking yourself the right questions is a powerful tool to improve your self-awareness and create a life that fulfils your purpose.

To grow into the person you are meant to be, you may not need the right answers, but you surely need to keep asking the right questions.


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Thanks to Lorena Loriato

Fabio Salvadori

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Innovation and Human Potential Coach. More about me on http://fabiosalvadori.com/ or write me at me@fabiosalvadori.com

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