The everyday fear…

Q1: being a “gay couple” implies in some self-reprimands… like a simple goodbye wave instead of a kiss and a hug.

Q2: Sometimes the place isn’t safe enough or it’s too crowded or too empty… sometimes you just want to avoid a “headache” in your day.

Q3: And yet, even if all the cautions are being taken, the fear of being a “gay couple” in hostile and homofobic world…

Q4: never goes away… as well as the violence lurking.

From: Manifesto dos Quadrinhos

This comic reflection made me remember of something a big friend said to me once. We were talking about boyfriends and than she turns to me and say: “it must sad, isn’t it?” And I asked: “what is sad?” And she replied: “oh… you know… I mean, you can’t bring a guy you are dating with to your home and introduce him to your parents as someone you like or love… I was thinking about it and I think it’s sad for you guys… (gay people)”

For a moment, I was a little bit shocked with this statement, because in my mind it was something completely normal, the fact that I couldn’t introduce some guy I was dating to my parents, and if I did it have to be like “a friend”…

So today I was looking somethings on Tumblr and this comic appeared, it made me remember the observation of my friend… I remembered some dates that I had and ended with a shake of hand or just goodbye, and remembered that while I was looking to the other persons eye, I could saw that he was wishing to kiss and hug you but he couldn’t, by fear. Because what other people will think, if someone I know sees him and tell his parents… and the same things was in my eyes too, but again! It’s part of what is being gay, it’s our reality, and we have be thankful that our date is ending like this instead of being beaten or with a “headache”…

Peace to us all!