Favor Or Free Work

Does it matter what is asked or who asks?


I do favors for friends. I do things for free. I am broke. What is a favor?Helping someone move is a favor. Being a job reference is a favor. Finding clients for a friend’s business is free work. Getting sponsors for a friend’s project is free work.I can’t afford to do free work but I don’t want to be mean and stop doing favors for friends. It seems like I have deposited so much in the karma column but have unclaimed funds in favors. There’s a balance that I have to figure out.

It could my fault. I don’t ask for enough favors. I must say no to doing work for free. Maybe I have too many friends. The overused sentence uttered by a reality show contestant is “I’m not here to make friends.” Well, it makes sense to say that because the motivation to appear on a reality show is money and/or fame. My life is not a reality show. I am here to make a contribution to the world, to share my talents, to learn and grow and to love. The reality of life is that stuff takes money,and friends should not be a hurdle but a help.

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