Adulting: doing it right?
Imagine there is a bank account that credits your account each morning with $86,400. It carries over no balance from day to day.
Every evening the bank deletes whatever part of the balance you failed to use during the day. What would you do? Draw out every cent, of course?
Each of us has such a bank. It’s name is TIME.
Every morning, it credits you with 86,400 seconds.
Every night it writes off as lost, whatever of this you have failed to invest to a good purpose.
It carries over no balance. It allows no over draft. Each day it opens a new account for you. Each night it burns the remains of the day.
If you fail to use the day’s deposits, the loss is yours. There is no drawing against “tomorrow.”
Interesting quote isn’t it?
So this is yet another night when I’ve managed to sleep for around an hour and I’m now fully awake ready to start my day…just a shame it’s only 00:30 so that’s not really possible!
I think it used to be frustrating being unable to sleep because of the amount of thoughts I have (not all useful either!) but actually I think I prefer that over the monotony of aimlessly following the same routine every day…work, eat, sleep, repeat. Don’t get me wrong, one good night sleep every now and then would be awesome but I get some comfort from knowing that I’m still very much aware of life and have millions of questions I’d love to be answered…just a shame the world can’t be quieter during the day so I have time to have this thoughts at a more socially acceptable time of day.
Anyway, my lack of sleep really wasn’t the point of this story although it has been the reason I am writing it, might be good to have somewhere to share my sometimes pointless thought processes.
The main point of this is relating to the whole idea of adulthood…I often see those photos on Facebook that say things like “as a child all I wanted to be was an adult and now as an adult all I want to be is a child” but I had a moment today where I realised that actually, I don’t wish that at all. After what can only be described as an epic day with one of my closest friends Pokemon hunting (yes at the age of 26 I do love it and you can judge if you like), car karaoke, eating out, holiday planning and just generally catching up I pointed out that being an adult can be awesome if only people were doing it right! I’m not saying that everyone should go out pokemon hunting or anything like that but instead of complaining about all of the responsibilities that adulthood brings, how about enjoying the freedom of it as well. As working adults many of us can go where we want, be who we want and do what we want (all within reason of course) without needing to rely on responsible adults to fund it or transport us places or give us permission.
I think sometimes we spend so much time looking at what other people our age are doing and basing our success on their achievements that we miss the most important part — that we can do what makes us happy! I think social media makes this worse because individuals can post photos of their new houses, cars, engagements, babies, holidays, academic achievements and everything else and it makes us aware of what we haven’t done. So many of my friends have got married or are planning weddings, others have children or buying their own houses. Me? I’m booking holidays, catching pokemon and generally free to go anywhere without commitment to one place. Now some people will see that as failure because at the age of 26 I don’t have a house, a relationship or a brand new car but what I have is travel experience and stories to tell my friends and their children about the world that’s out there if they want to see it. I’m not saying that any of these choices are wrong but at this time of night when I scroll through my newsfeed and see people complaining they can’t sleep, complaining about work, wanting more from life and on a Monday already waiting for friday and wishing their week away I just want to tell all of them to take a step back and make some changes. I feel very fortunate, I have work tomorrow but it is a means for me to travel so I want to go in, I actually look forward to Monday because it is the start of a new week and time to make plans with friends. Obviously I love the weekend along with everyone else but I don’t wish my week away, there are 5 other days all with 24hrs in them which can be used to actually socialise (not on social media), to experience the world whether that be going for a run, singing (badly) in the car or just taking time to chill and enjoy something on TV. Enjoying being an adult, being free and capable of making those choices for myself.
We can sit and wait for time to go by as we complete chores, waiting the hour for the washing machine to finish just to do more laundry, or we can use the time between jobs to live the life we are given! Yes we are adults, yes we have responsibilities but they don’t have to define us!