American Grief — Activism, Trauma, Relationship and Healing
Richard D. Bartlett

Have been pondering this last question, ‘how can we bring groups into relationship with each other, therapeutically?’ Reflecting on my experience with the Mindfulness for Change community, it seems an important piece of this is bringing women into positions of power, but not only this — both men and women have to engage in the practice of valuing and in a way surrendering to feminine qualities. By feminine qualities I’m referring to softness, compassion, trusting intuition, valuing emotions and feelings as irreducible parts of the overall picture, and a quality of nurturing and sociality. (Not attempting to objectively define the feminine in any way, this is just how I relate to it on a personal level).

The Māori concept of manaakitanga also springs to mind. Mana = respect, earned or given from the community or another external source. Aki = to raise up. Tanga = the concept or being state of. Putting this together, when organising events we can weave manaakitanga into all that we do. Every process can respect and raise up the mana of all the individuals, even if (or especially) it is a process of giving constructive feedback or expressing dissent or disagreement.

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