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Let them go and happiness will follow

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If you’re often unhappy, anxious, or self-critical, there’s a good chance that the problem lies in your self-talk — the voice inside your head narrating the events of your daily life.

And while everybody experiences self-talk, some people’s is overly negative and extreme:

If this sounds like you, it’s very possible that the source of your unhappiness is your habits of negative self-talk.

Because here’s the deal:

The way we habitually talk to ourselves determines the way we habitually feel. …

#5: Cognitive Restructuring

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Do you ever feel like your emotions are all over the place? Like your moods ping-pong around erratically and unpredictably?

If so, you probably wish you could feel a little less at the mercy of external events — able to stay cool and keep your calm no matter what was happening.

Of course, there’s nothing wrong with feeling any emotion. And it’s normal for our emotions to fluctuate. But some people are able to control their emotional reactions better than others.

And while there are many reasons for this — from genetics and upbringing to how much sleep you got last night —here’s what matters…

#1: Unchecked expectations

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Why am I so emotional? has to be one of the most frequently asked questions I hear as a psychologist.

But it’s a tricky question to answer, primarily for two reasons:

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