Understanding Love Through Cars and Traveling
Having a relationship is kind of like investing on a car.
Let’s say in the beginning, you buy a cheap small car. You take the “love of your life” with you on a trip. You don’t know where or how many days you will stay in that particular place but as long as you’re with your partner, you don’t care where the both of you are heading off to. You were so excited for an adventure together.
It’s going to be your first time to drive your new car and you’ll be taking your partner out on your very first date. You need to impress them! Can you feel the pressure?
As you pack your bags, you think of what are the necessary things to bring. You ended up with a lot of baggage. Did you bring too much or is it enough? You shrugged it off thinking your partner wouldn’t really mind.
You met up with your partner the following day and got surprised to see them with their own baggage. You again shrugged it off and even offered to put all of them inside your small car.
As you head along the road, the car felt heavy. Still, you shrugged it off.
You went to different places, met different people and bought a lot of things along the way.
The car is getting heavier.
Your partner noticed how worried you look and assured them that everything is fine.
You didn’t plan anything so you got lost along the way and the both of you got into numerous arguments.
This continued on then the both of you realized the car was already at its limit. It can’t move any further.
Your partner realized it would be better if you take a break somewhere and figure out how to repair the car.
You were in the middle of nowhere and there weren’t any place to repair the car.
You only had one choice and that is to push the car for another mile or two and look for a repair shop.
You tried for a couple of miles but your partner told you they’re too tired already.
Both of you can’t go on with the adventure anymore.
You part ways.
“Travel is like love, mostly because it’s a heightened state of awareness, in which we are mindful, receptive, undimmed by familiarity and ready to be transformed. That is why the best trips, like the best love affairs, never really end.” — Pico Iyer
The thing I learned about relationships is that it’s really like traveling. You have to be all set. You have to know what are the necessary things to pack and avoid overpacking.
Remember the small car you invested in the beginning? It symbolizes the start of the dating phase.
Both of you bringing too much baggage into a new relationship will just become a problem in the long run.
Being in a new relationship means leaving unnecessary excess baggage behind and giving enough space for whatever experience you will have with your new partner.