If You’re a Poker Player, Don’t Make This Mistake
There’s one thing that holds the poker community back above all else. It’s a learning issue:
We are too dependent on arriving at certain solutions in the way that we THINK that we need to arrive at them, in order for those solutions to be worth something.
This happens because of the belief we’ve built up around the implication of dropping an insistent pattern of thought:
“If i admit I’m wrong, it lessens me.”
I want you to understand that this is the furthest from the truth, so you can stop hurting yourself in the same way I hurt myself. I talk to you as a brother who has suffered along side you and who remains in tune with your darkness, because I know it as my own. Now understand me: If I was forced to choose between 10 minutes of the worst torture, or the decade of mental/emotional pain I endured from THIS one belief^, i would laugh and take the knife with grace. I would take it, with love in my heart and the most eager anticipation. There is no pain like the one that is self-inflicted and relentless.
Someone asked me recently how to cut through insistent thought patterns. Start by realizing that they cause you pain. That they only lead to more insistence and more assessments. That they can’t correct their initial imbalance. That they reinforce their own distortions. Then realize that you are NOT that thought pattern. You just believe the voice in your head, because it’s subtler than you’ve trained yourself to detect. When you assume your biases, that is true arrogance. The arrogance is what is painful.
I don’t do the bible, but I can’t do better than it today:
That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
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Nick Howard is a professional poker player and coach who’s been in the industry for over a decade. He writes about optimized strategies for life and poker, and sells advanced poker training courses on his site, www.PokerDetox.com