The Interested Challenge

Nighat Noureen
Jul 28, 2017 · 2 min read

This week, I had a chance to read the book called “How to Win Friends & Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. It is very interesting and amazing book. A lot of tips I learned how to influence peoples. It is exactly right by becoming interested in others peoples we make friends quickly than by trying that other peoples are being interested in you.

“Of course, you are interested in what you want. But no one else is. The rest of us are just like you: we are interested in what we want.”

If we spend more time in trying to get other peoples are interested in you we waste our time because life is individual every single person on the earth is like to thinking about themselves. If we want that peoples are interested in us in this way we cannot make the real and true friends in life. If we want to make real friends we should put ourselves for other peoples to do things that require efforts, time, thoughtfulness and energy. Do things for the happiness of friends and helps to solve their problems.

During this challenge I realized if we want to other peoples are being interested in us we remain silent and listen more to others. It develops interest and thinking about other than we easily understand the nature of other peoples. It’s important to remember that when dealing with people, we’re dealing not with creatures of logic, but with creatures of emotion, who are motivated by pride and ego.

“Flattery comes from the tongue; appreciation comes from the heart”

Give honest and sincere appreciation to peoples it is the deepest principal of human nature. With true words of affection towards others change the other person point of view and only positive feedback to gain. Always welcomed to disagreement and show respect for others never say you are wrong it feels disheartens to others.

In this week my friends ask questions how are you? I simply answer the question and ask more question form them what going on these days? About their studies, research, activities and daily routine. By this challenge I learned that we should be good listener and give chance to others talk more about themselves. Only talks about the others interest and point of view that’s feel them they are most important for us. Give the most comfortable zone to friends so they can share everything without any hesitation to you.

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