What makes people difficult and dooms relationships?

“What makes people difficult and dooms relationships almost never is the people involved. It’s what we are trying to do with them.

Inviting someone to marry you is really not a very kind thing to do to someone you love, because it’s going to drag the beloved into a range of really rather unpleasant and challenging things:

doing the accounts with you, meeting your family regularly, seeing you exhausted and bleary-eyed after work, keeping the living room tidy, bringing up a child.

To really love someone — that is, to wish the best for someone — might more fairly mean foregrounding your best qualities with someone for a few ecstatic few summer months, then mutually and tenderly parting at the station or airport.”

Alain De Botton, philosopher & creator of The School of Life
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What do you think guys? :)