Fights in any relationship.
All human interactions are complex, because it involves two complex brains which grew up in two different environment.
Every relationship goes through ups and downs. Fights are common ,may it be between a brother and sister, husband and wife, between friends or among family memebers.
what makes those relationships to last longer?
The true essence of any relationship is fighting against the problem but not against each other, which is misunderstood very often.
May be as simple as no or late response to a text message to as big as not being respected enough.
Relationship is not worth staying forever, if both of you are not moving towards finding the solution.
The whole point of being in a relationship is about having that special person in your life, making them happy, sharing sorrows and creating wonderful memories. In one word: forever.
But we often shield ourselves with egos if it’s about fighting because subconciously either winning or loosing are the only outcomes of a fight. In such a case, we are fighting against each other but not fighting against problem, together.
Questions to be asked during an argument.
1. Why are we fighting?
Okay, couples do know about what they are fighting. But intentionally or unintentionally they bring other topics in between. It’s good to stick to the topic that lead to fight.
2. Why did you do it?
This is the trigger to fight. Not everything about a person will be liked. We need to adjust to few things. If it’s unbearable then it should be conveyed immediately.
Think about the reason behind why they did it. May be they didn’t had any other option or they couldn’t think of any at that moment. Teach them, show them the different options they have.
3. What’s next?
Yes, there was an incident and you both fought with each other. So what to do next? What solution do we need to find so that both are satisfied. Think about it and solve the problem.
The biggest enemy: miscommunication
Important note:
Stop the fight if the topic is deviated and stick to what is being discussed.
Find a solution on which both agree on.
Solve it immediately even when it hurts you. If ,due to unfavourable circumstances, need to stop the fight because some other thing is important at the moment, like, any health emergency, or time for guests arrival etc, then continue the conversation ASAP.
Unsolved issues will break the relationship.
We don’t know the solution to every problem immediately, it takes time.
Agree with each other to solve the problem with patience. After all the goal is forever right!
I post this article to start a conversation about fightings in any relationship. I would like to know your views and suggestions in this topic. (And a clap)
