Letting Go — An Art to be Practiced

A grudge, a feeling, a memory, an experience these are all things we hold onto from the past. But why do we do it? We like to hold on to things, situations and circumstances because in someway, it’s fulfilling. There’s comfort in holding on and giving a justification, even when it has ended up with a negative experience. But, ultimately, holding on to the past has no real benefit — it only holds you back from achieving your true potential.

We replay past mistakes over and over again in our head, allowing the feelings to shape our actions in the present. We cling to frustration and worry about the future, thinking that would somehow give us power. We hold stress in our minds and bodies, potentially creating serious health issues, and accept that state of tension as normal. Sometimes, we use the past to justify our current decision-making, and that’s the reason why we don’t want to let go.

We have our own story to justify our decisions. We use the past experiences to justify why we won’t know how to deal with a situation. You don’t have to argue in your mind knowing that is the truth and let that influence your current path because you’re unable to let go of it. When the facts are terrible or heartbreaking, it is human nature to blame someone else or even a past incident, not ourselves. If we can’t get out of the story we have constructed for ourselves, then we cannot move on toward bigger and brighter things.

Our tendency is to focus on “what used to be” and idealistically hold on to the past as if it had everything we ever wanted. Though age and experience can make it a little easier to let go and move forward, completely letting go and allowing ourselves to heal and look to the future with optimism and excitement can be difficult to achieve.

The problem with this, however, is that it ultimately causes more suffering. It doesn’t encourage growth and it doesn’t help us move forward. We have to learn how to find a balance between grieving as we need to focus on where we are now and what we want to have that we couldn’t before. Letting go allows us to take our hands off from situations that do not belong to us. This relieves us from unnecessary stress.

There will never be a time when life is simple but there will always be time to practice ,to accept that it is not. Letting go helps us to to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. Don’t let bad experiences dictate your future. Instead, use your experiences as a tool to push you further but not as an excuse to hold on.