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Making decisions is inherent in being free.

But sometimes it is hard to come to a decision and be sure it is the right one. When unsure, we take more time to think about it, to ponder.

The problem is when this thinking brings more doubts than certainties. Our minds get filled with what-ifs, and it increases anxiety.


If you keep thinking about what you want to do or what you hope will happen, you don’t do it, and it won’t happen. — Desiderius Erasmus

Indulging in fantasies is the enemy of taking action.


When you notice yourself building too many scenarios in your head and questioning your ability to make decisions, stop, breathe, and address your thinking pattern.



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I consider myself lucky, even though I am far from being wealthy. My first career setback happened when my application for a Ph.D. scholarship was denied.

It was 2012, the peak of the economic crisis in my home country. Scholarships were cut by less than half. Our prime minister told the young people to migrate.

And so I did.

Bad luck I didn’t get that funding; good luck I found it somewhere else.

This is not what worries me.

A study on white American men who graduated between 1979 and 1989 found that the 1980s recession severely impacted their wages.

Those who graduated with high unemployment rates started their careers earning less and changed jobs less. And after 15 years, they made 1–20% less than those who started off in a better economy.

And now we are in a recession…



Nita Pears

Nita Pears

Learner, reader, aspiring writer. Inspired by human nature and everything biology.