What’s feminism for me ?

Few months back, a friend of mine asked me to like one of her facebook post on feminism to which I refused. Why ?
I read that post 4 times and trust me, not even a single word make sense to me. I find it crap and bullshit !! Why ??
For me, the word “feminism” doesn’t exists, instead there exists a word called “humanism”. The time you introducing a words to represent “females”, you are contradicting it itself.
So what’s humanism ? How is it bigger than feminism?
One fine evening, I went out with a friend for dinner, where unfortunately, my card didn’t work and she had to pay the bill. As usual, my head was heavy because I didn’t pay my share. So next morning I transfer the money to her wallet. That’s how the conversation went after that:
Friend: Why did you transfer the money ?
Me : Because I also eat as much as you do or maybe more, why I should let you pay the whole and it makes me feel good.
Friend : Are you a feminist ?
Me : What the hell is that ? Where is that coming from ?
I hail from lower middle class family background propelled by my father, who, teach in high school and mother who is a housewife. Being a science student and then later into engineering, I didn’t explicitly study sociology. So it was obvious that I’d not have come across the term “Feminism”. But my parents have always taught me things like “honesty”, “truth”, “kindness” for all. My mother used to tell me “Never do something to someone, which you don’t want to happen to yourself.”
We used to have lots of pets, birds, trees and whatever comes along with them. And I loved to play with them and talk to each one of them, mimicking and responding their sounds and expressions myself, watching them mate and having new ones coming. It was like they are all human and a part of my daily interactions. I didn’t use to treat them based on their gender like “hey female bird, you will get less food, hey male bird, you eat more.”. No never, that would have made my life a hell lot harder.
The point is, I just know one language i.e. how human should treat other human and I don’t need other terms and propaganda to make my life complicated.
Why can’t we think straight ? Why do we need to introduce the terms that have cascading effects of separation and bias ? Be simple, Be focused and think big. If you like this post, don’t forget to share it. Every share/feedback will mean a lot to me.
