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Self doubt is a very familiar terrain for me. And like you rightly said, it often stems from not knowing ones-self yet. For me, what I’ve learnt is to try to stop figuring myself out, to stop telling myself I am this certain person. Not because I want to quit disappointing or surprising myself, but because just as it is wrong to put people in certain holes and expect certain things from them, it is wrong to do that to ones-self, too. I am learning to trust my voice, forgive my impulsive mistakes, know that even I am not perfect, I cannot be, no matter how hard I try, and that anything that comes out of me is irrepressibly me. I am learning to stop apologizing for who I am (so much so that I have refused to learn the Hausa word for Sorry), and to accept myself. Forget people. Nobody knows.

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