selfish v selfishness. i am traveling in the morning and am now in the ER with a friend, her mother and her daughter. following my heart and listening to my mind often puts me at conflict. putting my priorities aside to support the less fortunate has been a constant in my decision making and at times i feel selfish when saying no or i cannot…. especially when it comes to the physical and mental support of others… then i feel good that i was there (and am here)… so it is time worth spent … selfless… however after i leave this present state, i face realities of time and have lost focus of my priorities… selfish … balance is difficult. this forum is a good release. thank you medium.