It appears that thinking and mindset is very much subject to environment factors like culture and…
Brian CJC

I don’t know if I would say that I felt pressured to have sex. My desires were my own and it didn’t have to do with pressure, although I felt behind. However, the reason I felt behind is because I was getting older and I started to think that my body might not work correctly if I waited too long. I know…dumb, but I always think my body is on the verge of falling apart. I also didn’t like how behind I was when it came to interacting with the opposite sex. I honestly found it difficult to even have a conversation with someone I liked, and as an adult… I felt like a child, stumbling over my words and avoiding the eyes of a cute boy.

My Haitian culture is similar to yours. The sudden switch for me went from don’t you dare look at boys, don’t talk to them, don’t acknowledge them, don’t do anything with them… to why aren’t you married? This tactic might work with arranged marriages, but it doesn’t work well when you’re left to find your mate on your own because everything needs to be learned.