This is sad. I agree you don’t have to transition to be trans, but I think wanting something your whole life and never reaching for it is a tragedy. I did not transition until I was over thirty. I told myself it is too hard. I am working poor and I will probably not be able to find a job. I told myself my father would hate me. I told myself that by living as cis at least I might have a gay boyfriend and that if I transitioned nobody would love me. I told myself lots of reasons not to. Then one day I had a realization. I spent over half my life wanting to be female and hating the person I was. I realized I was going to spend my entire life wanting something and never pursuing it. So I did and before I new it I was the happiest I could ever remember. It turned out that even if all my fears turned out to be true, and they did not, that the happiness I felt I was worth it. If a person is trans I would accept them no matter what, but I would argue the benefit of transition. I think what you get from trying to be who you truly are is worth almost any price