We Are All Narcissists And I’m Bored

Nova Johnstone
Jul 10, 2017 · 2 min read

We are all narcissists, including me. This is how we are conditioned on a daily basis to be. We live in a world where we are bombarded with other people’s images of sparkling perfection in every post, their daily experiences (Do people work? Still can’t figure that one out) but to be honest, as happy as I can be for other people’s success or what seems to be success, I’M SO BORED of it!

After awhile every post looks the same. It all comes together in one giant, never-ending scroll of what I ate, what I wore, where I am narcissism.

In a recent discussion with one of my students we were looking at what we refer to as the necessary evil of building our Instgram profiles given our profession as ballet dancers and performers. I sighed in despair explaining that I find it to be work and it’s something I’m not good at nor do I particularly enjoy it. In her wise words she brought to my attention something very important: Nobody likes a try too hard.

That resonated with me.

Nobody likes a try too hard because it feels inauthentic and and it’s so transparent. How many times have you taken a selfie, posted it and felt nothing? How many times have you scrolled through your feed feeling uninspired?

I could be alone on this but I find it so ironic that something that has the ability to connect us all, often leaves us disconnected and dispirited.

Can we get back to posting inspiring, beautiful images, showing gratitude and thanks towards others, and maybe even not posting at all so we can have a real conversation with a real person? Crazy I know.

Wasn’t the original Instagram called making memories? Those REAL memories can’t ever be replaced with hours worth of boring feed.

Until next time 🙏

ND.

Nova Johnstone

Connector of People and Entrepreneur

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