Why?

I came across a challenge to write an essay on the topic Why. I thought about the things that crossed my mind when I read this word. For me, in a split second so many fleeting thoughts came in mind. All of my unanswered heart breaks, unanswered curiosities and amused questions in few seconds of reading this three letter word. I realised this one word has captured almost all emotions of my life perfectly.

The why while I was in tears laughing like a euphoric maniac, the angry why, the amused why, the curious why, the sounding-life-an-idiot why, the heart broken why and the disappointed why-me. Everything good, bad or ugly has been covered up by why. But which on has affected me the most?

I’d say the curious or inquisitive why. This question has always helped me getting clearer perspectives of life. All the negative emotions, if taken with a curious and questioning mindset, unfold into a trivial problem. I have used it mostly when I feel victimized. I have felt the helplessness only few times in my life, but when I thought why me with a curious mindset, I found out things about myself that I never knew or noticed.

When I knew my Whys won’t be answered(mostly when I was rejected), I questioned instead why won’t they be answered by the other person involved. It just puts you in other people’s shoes and you can see things from their perspective.

Asking why in professional life before a how has helped me gain perspective of the purpose with which something was done. Once you have a hold of the motivation behind an idea, you can execute it.

People often get engrossed in doing thing and getting instant gratification out of it, that they forget to ask why did they start doing it in the first place. Stopping to ask yourself the reason behind your actions from time to time, helps you become more mindful of your actions and stay in touch with the purpose you started out with.

So one change in approach towards asking a silly Why? can change your entire views and perspectives about life. Instead of asking empty questions knowing you don’t want to hear the answers, take things inquisitively.

You can learn from worse things that can happen if you ask the right questions. There is always a takeaway, it’s up to us to find it out with the right set of whys tuned in appropriate adjustments of curiosity and inquisitiveness.