There is nothing more constant than change. It is happening all around us, every day, all of the time. Yet, why is it that so many people fear change? One of the biggest reasons is we get comfortable in the way we’re doing things. Then, when something takes us out of our comfort zone — we feel uncomfortable because we are going through some difficulty adjusting.
There is always something valuable that can be derived out of difficulty, adversity or change; we just have to look for it with open minds.
When we accept the fact that nothing lasts forever, we are better equipped for the journey. Struggle occurs when we resist reality, so the best way to end the struggle is to embrace the impermanence in life. We must enjoy the good times while we can and remember that the not so good times are just temporary. The light will appear at the end of the tunnel; it is bound to happen eventually, we just need patience.
When we find ourselves going through any kind of change in our lives, our natural response may be to tense up on the physical, mental, or emotional level. We may not even notice that we have braced ourselves against a shift until we recognise the anxiety, mood swings or general worried feeling toward the unknown that usually results. However, there are positive ways to move through change without pushing it away or attempting to deny that it is happening. Since change will occur in almost every aspect of our lives, we can learn to make our response to it an affirmative one of anticipation; welcoming the new while releasing the past with grace.
Change can be a beautiful thing, yet it is one aspect of life that many people resist. Why is it that some people can easily embrace change, while others will do everything in their power to prevent it? It all boils down to a matter of perception.
One thing we can do is to alter our perspective by changing the labels we use to identify our feelings. We can re-interpret our feelings of anxiety as the butterflies that come with eager expectation. With this shift, we begin to look for the good that may be on its way. Although we may only be able to imagine the possibilities, when we acknowledge that there may be good ahead, we can focus our energy on joyful anticipation and bring it into our experience while allowing the feelings to carry us forward.
Even though it may occur due to a negative event, change almost always leads to something good. The ability to go from resisting change to embracing change is possible, although it may not happen overnight.
So the next time you are faced with an experience which causes your reality to change, take a deep breath, take a step back and embrace the opportunity.
“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.” ~ Charles Darwin