Fear and letting go
Fear is something that we can let get the better of us and let it take over our lives… literally. Fear can at times be a good thing (in moderation) if it helps motivates us and helps drive us to take action and do things that we should be doing to help achieve our goals. It can equally be quite crippling if we do not learn how to manage it.
This was a reoccurring theme in conversations over this weekend. If we allow fear to take over our lives and consumes all areas of our lives. In addition, if due to that feat it holds you back from taking action to achieve your goals then that is not healthy and needs to be recognised and addressed.
Alongside fear being able to let go of things, people and experiences is equally important. It needs to be addressed to allow us to either progress forward else it will hold us back. Fear and letting go hand in hand and if not managed then it can increase or decrease our fear.
We cannot let fear get the better of us and prevent us from living our lives. NO one should ever be in a situation where something that create fear in us is used against us and if you have someone like that around you….. well know that either that person needs to be removed from your life or you need to remove yourself from that environment.
Some tips on how you can overcome and/or manage your fears.
1. Get comfortable with fear
Invite fear into your life. When you fear something, move toward it. Feel it, and breathe through it.
Do the things that frighten you. Action builds courage. Tell yourself, “This fear will pass.” Your world expands as your courage expands.
2. Make your dominant thoughts positive
Fearful thoughts attract more fear. Positive thoughts attract success. Instead of expecting the worst, train your mind to expect the best. Make positive assumptions about your future.
3. Don’t give time, attention, or energy to fear
Hold yourself accountable. Be consistent, be prepared, be dependable, and focus on solutions.
Be innovative, take the initiative, and go the extra mile. If you don’t take action despite your fear, opportunity will pass you by.
4. Never dwell on scarcity
Learn to think, speak, and live as an abundant person. Turn off the news. Celebrate what you have. Be generous.
Focus your attention on being ready, willing, and prepared for the beauty, wonder, connections, good fortune, and favorable circumstances that are yours if you are willing to work and be open to it.
5. Revisit your victories
Strengthen your belief in yourself by reflecting on the last three years of your life and every success you’ve experienced.
Close your eyes and feel the celebratory emotion of each one. Bring the same drive, persistence, and talent into now and allow it to inspire and motivate you.
6. Live vicariously through the victories of others
Use the success stories of others. Read how the Brooklyn Bridge was built. Study the success of Steve Jobs, Walt Disney, Steven Spielberg, and Oprah Winfrey. Take note of the courage they developed and follow their path to greatness.
7. Ask your family and friends for encouragement
My family/friends can see my strength when I forget I have it. At my request, they don’t hesitate to remind me of all trials and triumphs we have come through. They’re generous with praise and encouragement. Ask your loved ones to do the same for you.
8. Create a support group of friends or colleagues
Robert Fulghum said it best in his book, All I Really Needed to Know I Learned in Kindergarten: “When you go out into the world, it is best to hold hands and stick together.” Sticking together makes tough times easier and easier times more fun!
9. Plan to be great
Step into your power and dream big. Follow it up with calculated risks and deliberate action steps. Have no doubt about your success. Your dreams are at stake here!
You have the power to do what it takes to break through any obstacles that stand in the way of yourself, your dreams, and your happiness.