I feel like the pattern of my forties looked something like:

  • Meet someone and really like them.
  • Recognize that part of what I liked is something we have in common.
  • Slowly discover the shadows in that common thing.
  • And usually decide to not be like that so much anymore.

For example, I gave up being so impatient and hard on myself, (wow, that stuff is painful to watch in others). This took 4+ different people to really learn the dimensions of it.

I am really grateful for my unwittingly good teachers on this. Thank you for being a mirror for me.

Image of peaceful sleeping godhead. Just the disembodied head.