Why NO One Should Help You

… #Life, #startup and business

Most people don’t even wait for you to ask & they bombard you with the tale of how their greatness is being sabotaged by lack of Help.

Fuck that ! , no one should help you(and I sincerely mean it) because apparently, no one fucking cares. Truth is, we all have our individual baggage. No one has the time to spend worrying about another mans baggage.

Waiting for that godly, kind hearted, good spirited, heaven sent angel, is a perpetual wait. You may die waiting.

Trust me, Your Knight in shining amour is probably busy trying to raise money for a new designer brand amour or sharpening his long Roman sword.

So what’s the point in all this you might ask? Point is, fuck help, fuck the thought that anyone owes you shit… no one owes you.

To get stuff done, go do it… or fucking pay for it.

YOU are Scared of making mistakes? Scared you can’t afford the run, scared you will fail, scared you will blow your money and go broke, scared people may look down on you, sacred they may challenge why you shouldn’t be the one doing it in the first place …? Yeah, all your fears will/may happen, trust me. You may go broke, you will probably blow your savings, fail in the business,called phony pony, be laughed at and scorned, turned down or end up making epic mistakes… yeah all your fears will probably happen. Fantastic, and so bloody what?

… you won’t die. Trust me.

On the flip side, the things you failed in, becomes a list of valued/validated experience. Taking initiative exposes your vulnerabilities, displays your ignorance and highlights your knowledge deficit … our fears are instincts triggered , bits of our primordial remains from our first exposure to the wow of the cold big world. But, fear should rather give us courage, fear should heighten our curiosity —curiosity is the biggest tool of a child . It was the curiosity of the child, even in weakness and ignorance that brings her prosperity, growth and experience.

On the other side of Your business fail is a lesson on how not to execute. On the other side of a proposal rejection is a lesson on how not to negotiate. The other side of no customer response is usually a validation of how shitty what you thought was the shit was actually shite.

That you were screwed over in a deal is a lesson on why you should take legal paperwork seriously, affirming why it exists in the first place.

What of the ignored pitch or the not replied emails ? , this may be a lesson in how not to present a pitch deck, or even an opportunity to bootstrap your way to traction .

The list goes on… if you never did anything, you hardly know anything. Waiting for help is like borrowing without a job… you will never be able to pay back.

The wisdom in fail fast is the quick experience you gain in the process. Nothing is as simple as it seems… the problem you want solved is simple, but the person who you wait for has to be more… much more than you. Why not make it you, by giving your self more through your rejection of Help?

What do you need more than help? You actually need to help more people. You need to minister to people’s selfishness first. Everyone needs help, find a way to serve the guy who you need his service in return. Mutual oiling of the hinge and the nail ensures door swings left to right or even 360°… your job is to find that sweet spot and be sure to do a good darn job serving.

NO one should help you, help people to serve you…

If you get too comfortable asking me for help every time you need one, you live for me and not for you. Dependence is the opposite of independence… exactly why NO One Should Help You.

I learnt a lot more building than saving

I kept more investing than banking

I learnt more breaking than protecting

I understood more sharing than hoarding

And I surely got more muscles in the pain of lifting heavier weights than the comfort of chilling on my sofa.

NO one should help you… build to save, invest to earn, break stuff to understand, share to learn & pain to gain.

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