I’ve come across so many social media and forum posts about the LOA not working, and thought I’d share my own experience. Many of the answers from those who are getting results, to those who are expressing their frustration or confusion at their lack of results, involve variations of: “The LOA works if YOU work at it” or “The LOA is ALWAYS working!” or “You have to BELIEVE…” and other well-intentioned, but less-than-helpful responses.
I remember being the one who was posting those questions, and feeling frustrated with the answers since I was doing everything suggested by what I’d read and heard from LOA “experts”. And, not only was I seeing no results, but there were times things appeared to get even worse!
In my experience, there are four things that are needed in order to get results from the Law of Attraction. And, up until I discovered them, I had spent a long time doing everything that was advised in order to get results:
I Believed — actually, correction: I KNEW that it works.
I visualized — with feeling, as if I had the result now.
I did affirmations — in the present tense… a LOT.
I practiced positive thinking.
I kept going, even when I wasn’t seeing results…
… but, I didn’t see the results.
Until I did the following four things — and THEN it worked!!
- Staying in Alignment — MOST of the Time
You need to spend more time feeling good than feeling bad… A LOT more time.
I was doing the affirmations, visualization and meditation, and everything else suggested. BUT… what I didn’t realize (until I started becoming hyper-vigilant and paying attention) was that in-between those activities, I was automatically, naturally (and unknowingly) feeling scared, worried, frustrated, and whatever other habitual emotions were running frequently.
2. Noticing Self-Love
You need to practice noticing love for yourself. I say “noticing” love for yourself because I believe we don’t need to love ourselves — because we already DO!
I believe we’re born with natural self-love that is then conditioned out of us. We’re conditioned to deny that love, and cover it up.
A simple exercise to start changing this:
Start noticing the little things in your life that you appreciate (you have electricity, you have shoes, the birds are tweeting, you got a parking space, the sun is shining…) — and — here’s the IMPORTANT bit: Recognize each of those things as EXPRESSIONS of LOVE from YOURSELF to Yourself!!!
Say to yourself, as you notice each of those things: “Look how much I love myself!” and thank yourself.
Whatever results you haven’t managed to get yet, you HAVE attracted and created these things!
So, although it will feel weird at first, say “Thank-me!” and “Look how much I love myself” — practice this throughout your day. Until it becomes automatic.
3. Change the “Evidence” that Contradicts What You’re Aiming to Manifest
Change the negative subconscious references. Change the “evidence” that your subconscious holds that “proves” whatever you’re experiencing now… to “prove” what you want, instead.
The “evidence” your subconscious is referring to is data from childhood experiences. Just as you learned how to walk and run, and eat, and talk, you also learned who you are and how the world works.
And just as you automatically start running when you need to — without needing to think of every movement — because the knowledge and skill is subconscious — you also automatically feel sad, hurt, worried, anxious, unworthy, and scared — because, again, it’s subconscious.
So, the goal is to change your negative subconscious childhood memories to the opposite, positive, and empowering — so that they “prove” what you want now.
If you grew up without affection and support, that could have become subconscious “proof” that you are unworthy or unlovable.
Bearing in mind the subconscious cannot use logic or reason — knowing consciously that you were loved doesn’t help.
It’s the “evidence” in the form of childhood memories that provides the contradicting proof.
Also, bearing in mind the subconscious can’t tell the difference between reality and imagination, and can’t judge something as unrealistic… it will believe whatever new memories you give it.
So, you would then change those memories to where your parents were loving, affectionate, fun, supportive, abundant, generous, healthy, happy, encouraging ... And you felt loved, secure, valued, safe, talented, and worthy.
THEN, your subconscious is referring to the NEW evidence that you deserve whatever it is you’re wanting to attract in your life.
THEN, it’s easy and automatic to feel the feelings of it and to stay in alignment, and you will automatically be a vibrational match for what you want.
4. Use Zero Tolerance!
Become hyper-vigilant. The slightest negative thought or feeling — immediately “nip it in the bud” by redirecting to something positive. Never allowing it to grow.
The earlier you catch it, the EASIER it is to change your state to positive.
Using these four techniques completely change my life, and I started getting results I couldn’t have ever imagined, from the LOA!
I hope this helps those who have been struggling. Please feel free to ask questions or ask for clarification on anything, in the comments below. I love answering questions!