Why Erykah Badu’s Opinion Is Dangerous
Dominique Matti

Look, I get what you’re saying, and I understand it. Still, I disagree with your titular premise. There are no dangerous ideas. Only dangerous people. Ms. Badu suggests, rightly in my opinion, that men are going to be men. Your estranged father suggested the same, perhaps very inappropriately age wise, to your brother and to you vicariously. That men will be men does not mean you are in danger from the same. Your father caused the lady no harm whose ass he deemed perfection. And most women who are catcalled aren’t harmed. Don’t get me wrong, I’m in no way condoning crude machismo or suggesting that a woman is at fault or is somehow inviting negative attention by the outfits she wears. I’m saying, again, Ms. Badu is right. We are at our base sexual beings. Animals, all of us. And some of us — not me- but some of us- say things we shouldn’t to women — regardless of how they are dressed. But the line is only crossed when he who utters the vulgarity persists in vocalizing after being rebuffed or he escalates to physical contact. Both are harassment. But looking at your ass as you walk by? I gotta stop that? Come on.

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