Way to Grow

I have decided to let my silence do the talking. I didn’t take a break from writing, I just wasn’t going to give in to the consistent noise in my head that urges me to write. I let it scream, bite my brain, hammer my skull- but I don’t let it move my hands to write. Nothing can do that for no one.

Lately, there’s one thing I’m learning to accept and never ever contest or question- CHANGE. This is something sensitive.. Very. Most humans are bunch of dreamers who decide to see things differently even when it seems pretty obvious that it is what is and nothing is ever changing it. They call this act several names but mehn..it’s all good. We all are guilty of this, admittedly. At some point, we’ve had to show some shitty sense of belief in a totally hopeless situation and it either works out or doesn’t- it’s a gamble.

Relating this properly to relationships with fellow humans, there are times we see people’s true nature and it’s way more glaring than a full moon on a dark sky that they are not what we want or who we need but we get driven by our passion and get chauffeured by our interests and delude ourselves to either think we can blend them to be who we want or that we’d bend ourselves to match and perfectly suit their prototypes but mehn.. Shit’s usually tragic eventually.

Most humans come with danger signs and yet we accommodate them into our abode, ignoring instinct, disobeying logic, damning caution and thereby igniting pain and brokenness. Pretty face and sexy body structure- check! Good accent and carriage- double check!! But compatibility? That’s a lil down the gauge but we don’t care. ‘I’m attracted to her’, ‘My soul craves for him’, ‘We could be perfect if we try’.. Oh, please! I used to say to someone I was a sucker for at some point that the best fairy-tales have the most awkward beginnings, the most convoluted plots and the most insane twists but they end pretty well so… I’d fight for what we have if you’d decide to do it with me but fact is, you don’t even have to beg them to join in the fight! When you have to remind them that they are to fight for it too, trust me.. Red signs don’t glow any brighter!
Accept that some people would never play that role you want them to, accept that they’d never be who you want, accept that you’d never have them the way you want and for the ones who used to have it so good at some point and suddenly that twist came up and now it all appears so irreversible, mouth-to-mouth don’t fix no corpse, admit when the signs are clear that it’s really over when it is. Fight it not.
And there’s usually something better ahead.. Often, if not always, but we never believe this! We’d prefer to hold on to those demons cos we are too scared to live without them and we don’t want to believe that an angel could be outside waiting to give the fixing we clamour instead we try to be comfortable with the fake sense of comfort that resonates from such obviously ill union.
Often, letting go is the best choice. Always, the best way to grow is to accept changes, not to water a dead plant or nurse an undoubtedly helpless situation.. no, never!

Olotu Olaoluwa Abiola

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