EX-crazy or EX-venture

Oldish Soul
Jul 23, 2017 · 3 min read

So in true “i’m grown up to make my own choice’s fashion”, i recently decided to take a vacation with my EX boyfriend…. yes you read that right, i said EX boyfriend!

While you don’t have much background to our history, and i’m not here to bore you with too many details, the summarized version goes a little like this…. We dated exclusively for a year and a half (4 months of which were long distance, like 10 hour time difference, long distance), we are two different nationalities and also what’s termed to the world as a mixed raced couple. We broke up 13 months ago, and while we have been in contact periodically over this time, we had not seen each other post break-up. In the time that we dated we were fortunate enough to visit 6 countries and 9 cities which we adored doing, travelling has always been a passion for both of us. After 13 months apart, each having a few failed attempts at dating and an apparent chemistry still thick in the air between us, we figured what’s the worst that could happen.

We agreed Hong Kong would be the meeting spot and that we would give it a solid 8 days, because go big or go home RIGHT! Naturally this was planned a few months before the time, so there were many little things that needed to be discussed, probably the most important of the lot was how we would give our family and friends heart failure from the news. After weighing the pros and cons we decided that keeping the trip a secret for the general public was the best idea. The irony of this is that in general we shouldn’t feel afraid or scared to make our own decisions, but more so we shouldn’t feel afraid to share our decisions with the world, especially if we are happy with what we have decided.

We did tell a handful of people each person with a very mixed and varied reaction, some cheered us on (while we are sure quietly thinking that emotionally one of us would get ruined), others said straight off the bat that it was a bad idea and the we were stupid for even thinking that it could work. Everyone waited with baited breath for the finally out come (i’m sure). We did eventually post on Facebook that we were there and that we were vacationing together and then to had very mixed reactions in the comments.

One thing i do tend to do (which is probably to my own detriment) is that when ever i am going through something / planning to do something (out of the ordinary), i dial up the internet and search for a glimmer of hope from the humans of the world who have been in the same situations, i tend to read forums and blogs and the comments there of, and usually the general consensus is that, if you are doing something that is not recognized as “normal” then you are making a mistake. I am pleased to report that 2 weeks post vacation, which bring our total country count to 7 and 10 cities done and dusted, no one is damaged goods (or not any worse off than before at least), no one is emotionally hanging on the edge and no one has any regrets!

Looking back at what i can actually term one of the most memorable vacations of my life, makes me realize that people spend so much time trying to make everyone happy and conforming to “social norms”, that they forget the only person who needs to live with the outcome (good or bad) is them self and while advice is always welcome and support from the people who love us is always necessary, the choice should ultimately be our own, because if you live your life in the vision that everyone else sees for you… you will not be living your own truth! This is not me saying that everyone should be taking vacation’s with their Ex’s, it’s just me saying that you should do what feels right for you… even if to everyone it seems like you have lost your marbles!!

Hong Kong In all it’s glory! (July 2017)

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