Peach or Coconut Style: How to effectively communicate

Olivia F
3 min readSep 7, 2021

And how culture can be a game changer.

Putting people into categories tends to separate rather than gather them, so it’s generally not a good idea. But we can also use these differences for good. Our vision, how we see the world and each other, has been impacted by our culture. So we can broaden our perspective and understand one another better if we look at how we are different

Ask yourself: how are things done somewhere else? What does it say about this different culture? What does it say about mine?

Growing up in France, a country where people are said to be rude (I would say distant), I have experienced several culture shocks when I met foreigners for the first time. People were very kind and happy to talk with me. My suspicious self would wonder: “Why are they so friendly? What do they want from me?”.

That’s when I learned about the two main cultural communication styles: the Peach and the Coconut.

You may wonder what is going on in my mind. Please keep reading.

The first ones are the Peach people.

When you think about a peach, you may say it is delicious and juicy. (The peaches from Yamanashi prefecture are an absolute delight!) I think we can agree on one thing, peaches are soft on the outside.

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Olivia F

Multilingual creative lawyer currently based in Melbourne and lived in Tokyo for more than 2y. Interested in minimalism, environment, cultures, self-love…