Why I have stopped searching for meaning in life

What is the meaning of life? If you’ve been asking yourself this question recently, welcome to the club! The meaning of life is one of the basic philosophical concepts and it has always tickled minds of the most intelligent and educated people in history. Unfortunately, the problem remains unresolved nevertheless.

As a matter of fact, humans are the only species searching for some special purpose, goal, and destination in their lives. This grand enigma is not reserved exclusively for philosophers and scientists — there is probably not a single soul in the world that didn’t ask the famous question: What am I living for?

Little details. That’s what matters

After such discouraging introduction to this article, it is obvious that you’ll hardly ever figure out the true essence of your existence. However, there are some things that you can do. First of all, you should probably stop searching for the universal goal that is common to all people on Earth.

Just remember how Hermann Hesse’s Siddhartha didn’t want to follow the Buddha’s philosophy, although he considered it to be spiritually illuminated.

The point here is that all individuals are searching for something completely unique, the one and only meaning that cannot be transferred through teacher’s lectures. Instead, you need to realize that each person is unique and goes through one-of-a-kind experiences. That’s exactly what your own meaning of life could be — the sum of all your experiences and conclusions that you derive from them.

At the same time, all these experiences should lead you to another goal in life: to become better, to see the world from a wider perspective, and to let go of your fears and doubts. This kind of self-growth might just be one more purpose in your life. Try to embrace the world as it is and concentrate on elements that improve your wisdom, knowledge, and empathy.

If you are open-minded and willing to make peace with everything that surrounds you, there is a nice chance that you will also make peace with yourself. You should enjoy all those little details in everyday situations and use them as valuable lessons in the process of self-development. When you learn many things, meet new people and places, and change a few perspectives in life — you might as well wake up one morning knowing the purpose behind all that.

Most of the time we cannot see the forest because we are focusing only on one tree — but this is not the best method to understand life. The whole idea of this non-search of meaning is to neglect individual elements of our own little universes. If you focus only on one goal or try to find a meaning in something specific, it can often lead you the wrong way. With this approach, you will probably forget to live and to see life in all of its various forms.

There is no special meaning in the things around us but you should try to recognize them all as parts of something much bigger and more essential. Use your experiences to evolve and to help others evolve because this is something that you will never regret. When you look back at your life, you can proudly realize that you did your best to improve and to support the ones around you who needed your assistance.

This whole absence of general goal in life may seem like the unbearable lightness of being but it’s actually much easier to deal with it once you stop contemplating about it and actually start living your life in full capacity. Your experiences are precious and unique so don’t waste your time living someone else lives or chasing some imaginary objectives. Instead, just be yourself and search for your own special meaning and purpose.


The question of purpose and meaning of life is as old as the history of mankind. However important, it remains a mystery to all of us here. In such circumstances, the best thing you can do is to focus on your own life and try to comprehend it through personal experiences. This may sound like a simple advice but sometimes the real meaning cannot be found in the goal itself. Sometimes, walking the path that leads to this goal is actually all you need. So don’t skip the path and walk down that road.

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