A Letter to my Husband after the Stillbirth of our Baby Boy
Zabie Yamasaki, M.Ed, RYT
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Zabie, I’m so sorry that your sweet Grayson couldnt stay. As a fellow bereaved mother I just wanted to thank you for bravely sharing your story here. I think it helps to break the silence surrounding stillbirth and neonatal death. One thing that really stood out to me was the way the nurses shared that most heartbreaking news. I appreciated that they referred to your son as a person and said his heart is no longer beating, instead of I’m sorry there is no heartbeat and going on to discuss him as a case of fetal demise. I have heard too many other mothers express their anguish that their child was seen only as an unfortunate event, as a dead fetus and not as actual person. Reading your story and hearing the nurses choice of words gives me hope for the future.