I sincerely hope you find your way out of this self-inflicted mess. We make our own beds and we lie in them. I don’t think “no” as a reaction to bad “yes” experiences is the right way to go, becaus eyou are still taking the same energy with you that made the “yes” experiences fail so miserably.

I agree with your saying no premise, but I think it should be a pro-active decision to do so, not a reactive one.

Work on the underlying emotional reasons as to why you said ys in te first place, and the you will be free. The Release Effect .com might give you a few clues. We all have stuff going on underneath the surface, and it has to come out somewhere/somehow.

Good luck with your new life of “no”, I hope it is a great success.