I kept my name, but I’m not insistent that everyone else do it, too. I don’t feel all that strongly about it, it’s just my name and I didn’t want to change it so I didn’t. I won’t lie, it’s kind of a pain in the ass to keep correcting people, or trying to deal with businesses, the kids’ schools, etc. And I just don’t care about it that much anymore. But I do want to explain one thing — using your maiden name as your middle name, and then kind of having two last names (not hypenated, more like Jane Smith Doe), is not the same as keeping your name. Very traditional women have been doing that for ages.