What Is Reasonable?
Nicole Tavares
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Didn’t realise how bad my PTSD was until I read your piece and further rebuttal.

I’m struggling with PTSD myself, I thought I’d read your article thinking it might help me, unfortunately it’s just set off a flare up and flashback cycle, that’s taken a little while to overcome. What you postulate is correct and I didn’t realise how hard to read, see or hear certain topics are for me.

Like you I’m trying to face my past under medical supervision, but before today, I wasn’t sure if I was truly a PTSD sufferer. Yes I’ve had flashbacks and the fear and self loathing that goes along with them, but they’ve always been a part of my illness patterns, not something standalone and all encompassing. Maybe as my treatment progresses, it’s allowing deep seated issues to come to the surface and I’m able to recognise the triggers and symptoms for what they are?

But do I expect people to put disclaimers on every article, book, film or tv programme? I’m not sure that I do. Obviously as you say there are certain common triggers that perhaps should be part of a synopsis, but then surely just reading such a warning could set off a flare up?

Have we got to a place where we have to be so careful of others feelings that we should repress what we’re truly thinking? Do we even have the right to ask this? Because if we have, then I for one feel we are in danger of losing our individuality and perhaps even our creativity. If we have to think about how this phrase or scene might affect someone, would not self censure take place?

I don’t think there’s a right or wrong answer to your questions and as you say yourself; there isn’t a one size fits all solution either. My blathering a just prove how conflicted I truly am around this subject. Hope I’ve got my point of view across without causing distress.

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