Why I Love Gordon Ramsey

About 2 years ago I was stuck in a job I hated. Not only was it vastly different from what I had been lead to believe at the interview, it was also like being thrown into the deep end of an Olympic swimming pool after only getting one half-arsed swimming lesson. I remember being asked by a colleague who started the same day as me, ‘Do you understand what it is we’re supposed to do? Because I just don’t get this job.’

As things progressed and I ended up with the project from hell, I found myself getting more and more depressed. At one point my entire back seized up and I realised that I was physically reacting to the stress I was feeling. Then one day I stumbled across Kitchen Nightmares on Netflix. If you’ve never seen it, basically it’s a show where Gordon Ramsey tries to help struggling restaurants get back on track. Because it’s Gordon Ramsey, there’s a lot of yelling and a lot of swearing. For some reason I found it appealed to me.

One afternoon I was watching an episode in the kitchen while I was doing the ironing. I remember so clearly what he said to one disgruntled, depressed chef.

You just don’t care.

That was when it hit me. That was my problem. I just didn’t care. Not only because I had been pushed so far over the edge that the whole place could gladly have gone up in flames, but because I had got stuck somewhere that was completely wrong for me.

It was truly liberating. It was the moment I knew something had to change. And I made sure it did.

But now, every so often, when I get stuck and feel down, I ask myself, ‘Do I still care about this? What would Gordon say?’

What it gave me was the honesty to admit that sometimes things just aren’t right. And I don’t care enough about them to make them work. Even a dream that previously meant everything to me. When that happens, I can either fight to fix what is wrong and get the passion back, or I can walk away.

Sometimes it takes more strength to walk away.

Because most people see that as failure.

That’s why we stay in jobs, relationships and lives that just don’t work for us anymore.

Because we care more about what other people think of us than we do about ourselves.