A chaos theory of love and relationships

Orkut Buyukkokten
Apr 20, 2017 · 3 min read

Mathematicians have a way of describing complex systems in the universe like the path of a storm, or the creation of sand on a beach, or the growth of wildflowers in a field. It’s called Chaos Theory. It’s a theory that explains how one event, one meeting, can have extraordinary consequences: the flap of a butterfly’s wing that starts a hurricane, the wave that moves a note in a bottle across the ocean, the person on the other side of the subway car who saves your life. We don’t have a theory to explain the fate of our relationships with other people but I think this one comes close.

We meet a finite number of people in our lifetimes, and who we come into contact with determines the course of our lives: how happy we are, how safe we feel, whether or not we find love. We all want to be a part of a community. We all want to belong. Human connection really is a matter of survival. The search to find the people who understand us is a problem of greater importance than the most advanced questions in astrophysics. The desire for companionship is the hope that gets us up in the morning and through the hum of our days. But love and companionship are not problems we can readily engineer and solve. Laws of probability alone cannot explain who we will meet and how. They cannot describe the feeling we have when we meet someone who truly touches us. They cannot predict how one person might change our lives.

But I’m confident that with effort and ingenuity and good design, we can make it a little bit more likely for the magic to happen. That’s why I’ve created a new social network called hello. At hello, we’re building the easiest way for you to make new friendships and find romance. hello is the first social network built on loves, not likes. hello connects you with people who share your passions. When you sign up to create a profile on hello, we ask you to choose five different ‘personas’ representing your interest areas in life, which we then use to curate your personal feed. There are over 100 personas to choose from on hello (like Foodie, Movie Fan, Bachelor, Traveler and Selfie Lover), and we are adding more every day. Personas create communities of likeminded enthusiasts so that your posts on hello (or ‘jots’, as we like to call them) are only seen by people who love what you want to share. This helps light a few sparks so that you can make new friends and then share the things you love together in the offline world too.

In the real world, there’s no scientific method for finding love and starting new relationships. Sometimes things just happen in strange and extraordinary ways. But there is one thing you can do, which might change your life forever: say hello. You never know what might happen when you make such a simple and friendly gesture. hello could be the start of something new and beautiful, something you could never even imagine. So what are you waiting for! Come join us! There are so many people out there just like you. Say hello, and love your world.

Stay beautiful,

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